When you've pull through from the shock, healing is another process. It takes effort. It takes energy. The whole process is undeniably exhausting. You can't really put any blame on anyone because ultimately it is your body, you heart, your brain, your conscious. Nobody can truly understands unless they have walked or walking on the same path.
Healing is not only working on the mind but physical too. You can't just help it to be fearful of what comes next. An abnormality that you just don't know how to accept but you've to accept it anyway.
Time is the best asset in this situation. Time can either be your best friend or your enemy. Plus in this situation you can really see who has your best interest at heart sincerely. You can really see who's helping for the sake of money and who's going to the extra mile from the heart. No matter what the circumstances is ... you do you because only you know your body and your mind and what it needs. You dont have to play nice all the time. We are not born to be angels nor perfect. We are born with flaws, mistakes, defects, broken... but what matters is what do we do to mend ourselves to get up and keep going. And this is back to time. Use that time to heal ourselves and get closer to our maker. Ultimately we are created to go back to our maker. That is the end game! It is a process. The trials, the challenges, the pain, the hurt, the happiness, the wealth, everything is a process to who you become while on your ultimate journey in life... Bitter or Better! So self love, divine love is the utmost important!
You draw boundaries to protect your own healing, your own journey, your own recovery, yes we do that but we do not control that boundary by putting a double padlock on it. With the double lock then what happens to humanity, to spreading love, spreading kindness if everything is about boundaries, curfews, rules and boundaries! Where is the freedom? Where is hope? Where is the support? Is hope only available during the confinement within the parameters? So what happen should anything happen outside that boundaries? Isnt humanity created to help one another? Isn't that what merci is all about? Kindness. Is kindness only within the paid boundaries? Other than that ... we are to just roll and wrap up ourselves in the noisy chattering madness in our own mind? Where is the love?
As it is pain is unexpected, inevitable but suffering is optional. How can one expect someone who is in recovery to set a plan to reach out when you don't even know what's gonna happen the next minute? Be it or not in recovery ... we don't know what's next? We are NOT the writers of our future ... yes we can plan BUT We already know the saying, i plan, you plan, we plan , they plan but at the end of the day God is the best of planner. For example If you had planned to call someone at 3pm but something unexpected happened before 3pm and the first person that comes to their mind is you ... and maybe that could be a live saving call. Would you reject that call because of your so own self limiting belief on boundaries? Would you left it unanswered? Would you ignore it? OR Would you answer quickly and make sure all is well and cut it short?
Would you?
Could you?
When someone is on the path of recovery mending their broken wings would you, could you expect them to fly immediately?
Would you?
Could you?
Just a reflection..... Last time i checked this is my blog... so would i? Could i? ..... hmmmm 😁 Sure something to ponder about!
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